In a world with a 4 year old, a 3 year old, a 16 month old, a 3 month old and two soldiers you never know what misadventures await. Life is always springing the unexpected and I want to share them with you. Welcome to my world.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Writer's Workshop: To Do It Over Again

I've decided that this week I'm going to participate in Mama's Losin' It's Writer's Workshop. I've been really wanting to for a while since I feel like my blog is lacking something and I know I've been really neglecting it over the last two weeks. We'll blame it on a nasty chest & head cold (that is kicking my butt) and just being busy (being a mommy of two little ones can be tricky ;) ). I'm attempting to make up for it by participating in this really cool weekly post helping workshop.

She had all kinds of good questions or sentences to complete and maybe if I feel overly ambitious over the rest of this week, then I'll do each one. But for now I just picked one and it was very thought provoking. I always love having things that require me to think, especially on my blog. I think it gives everybody a different insight into what makes me, well, me!

If you could do it over again...

If I could do it over again, I think I'd change a few things, but I still keep in mind that if I hadn't made the decisions that I did and experienced what I did, I wouldn't be where I'm at today. With two beautiful kids and an amazing husband, whom I'm absolutely crazy about, I wouldn't want to change that outcome. But if I could still get the same end result (which I doubt, but if I could) there would definitely be some things I've chosen to do that I'd change. Not to mention more trivial things.

I would change how wishy-washy I was while I was first dating my Hubby, I would have realized sooner how much I love(d) him and that he was really what I wanted. He's a really good guy, but I had some strange notions about what sort of a guy I wanted and I didn't want to let that go. You know all the superficial things: skinny, athletic, funny, couldn't be short or overweight. So stupid now I look back, but at the time it seemed so important to me. Maybe we would have gotten married sooner and had more time as newlyweds vs getting married with four days to go to his deployment, then spending the first year apart. But I would never change that I married him and if getting to be with him meant doing that first year over again I would do it.

I would not put off college and truly make it a priority. I'd have gotten good grades and not ditched most of my classes one entire semester, which resulted in 3 Ds and several no grades due to lack of attendance. What a waste of money! I hope that I can stress the importance of college to my kids as they get older and that they apply for scholarships & grants to go. Its harder now that I have two kids that are so little to go back to school. I'll manage, because its something I really want, but it would have been so much easier before our kids were born.

I would have saved more money, so that my family & I could go on more trips. I'll admit to be jealous of my friends who this year alone have gone to NYC, Disneyland, and Hawaii! Not mention that they took their little boy! I wish I had that kind of money, but every time we attempt to save money there is a new medical bill that needs to be taken care of and I'm not even wanting to think what new ones are coming over the next 9 months or so. Yikes! Maybe this next year it will be our turn to take our kids somewhere fun for a vacation like that.

I would have taken more pictures of both my kids as babies. I would have forked out the money to do nice portraits of them as tiny babies. But money was tight after each of them were born and so I couldn't find the money or the strong drive to get it done. I always talked about it, but it never happened. Now, when my son is 2 and my daughter 1, I wish that I had and its too late to go back. But I will be getting them done soon, I'm going to make it a priority!

So, a few things I would go back and change, but overall my life is good where it's at and to change the past would enevitably change my present & future. I hope that this was an interesting read for you and that you might go and check out Mama's Losin' It's Writer's Workshop. Give it a try and see what fun new things you can talk about!


  1. Even if you don't have the pics, no one can ever take your memories, I think you will find in time they aren't as important as you think. But I always take a lot of snap shots...they aren't perfect but they work!

  2. I've gotten way better about it, but I know when the next baby comes I will be way camera happy!

  3. Oh, I would go back and do something differently too but I guess that is the beauty of hindsight. ;)

    Over from Mama Kat's.

  4. There's always something we could do over, but remember that every decision we made led us to here. It's not that bad ;)

    A Long Drive

  5. If I knew then what I know now...gee, I'm sorta glad that doesn't happen, cuz I did have some good times in the midst of all those blunders!

  6. That's a nice list there but as you say, if any of those things were changed .....! Great to meet you!

  7. Pics are thre best thing to capture the moments and cherish them life long :)
    Stopping by from Mama Kat'a.
    I am your newest follower :)

  8. I've made sure to take lots of other kinds of photos of my kids these days. I love catching them doing silly things like pushing each other around in the toy dump truck! My kids are so crazy, I never know what to expect! Thanks to all of you for visiting my blog!

  9. I liked it. The things you would change are not that big at all would have only changed your life slightly. But I am glad that you are happy with your life the way it is... There is nothing better than that ;)

  10. Oh I have a few things that could use a do over! But I have to keep them to myself!

    Your newest follower from Mama Kat's Workshop!~Lisa

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